Unlock the Secrets of a Really Great
Mother-Daughter Relationship

I'll Share 5 of These
Compelling Secrets with You Now!

There are secrets to a great relationship, but they needn't be secret to
you any longer!

It's a tremendous achievement to know yourself, I mean, really know
who you are, what you're made of, why you're the way you are, how to celebrate your positives, and how to love yourself, in spite of your
"less-than-positives"!

But this is just what you're going to find out with this life journal.  You're going to learn how your relationship with your mom affects your current relationships and decide for yourself how to make it all you'd hoped for: A relationship of rewards and admiration and respect.  It's within your reach, I promise.

You'll be thrilled at reaching this level of intimacy!

It takes passion and a commitment to building the relationship
you want.  And what you learn in this relationship carries over
into all your other relationships.

Asking ... answering ... sharing ... listening instead of talking, and
moving outside of yourself to feel compassion and empathy for
those for those you love most.

The mother-daughter relationship is complex to be sure.  Many women ask whether there's hope for one so frustrating, so painful and at times, so contentious?
Without a doubt ... I say a resounding yes!

Now, without wasting another moment, let me share some of the secrets of the mother and
daughter relationship with you ...

Secret #1:  A great relationship starts with asking (the right!) questions

We learn by listening and to listen, you have to ask questions.  The trick is to ask questions that
really matter.  Questions that teach us how to transform our relationship into one more deep and
meaningful.  Questions that help us learn not only where we come from but give us guidance to
where we're going.

You find questions like ...

How far back can you remember in your life?
How expressive was your family?
Did you know your grandparents?

I've carefully designed each of these questions (there's over 100 covering an entire life span)
to help you put the pieces together, to begin to build a foundation for your relationship and to
finally begin to understand one another.  Where most of us fall short is in really hearing.

Like one of my readers, Suzanne:  She had a history of abuse in her past and as a result was
becoming overly protective of her daughter, 11, almost to the point of obsession.  Her daughter
was growing resentful of the control that her mom was exerting over her every move and Suzanne
felt this strain in their relationship.

Recognizing that one of the questions in the book might help their relationship, she shared her
past abuse with her daughter.  She'd wanted to protect her and keep her from the bad things in life
of course, as we all want for our children, but slowly became aware that it was suffocating her
daughter and not allowing her to grow.

Interestingly, through talking to her daughter, she realized that her own abuse began when she was
11 ... this was an important age for her and brought back memories that were uncomfortable.  
She hadn't made the connection until they began talking, but ultimately she realized they were
just that ... her memories.  Not those of her daughter.

The best part?  She said they shared a hug for the first time in over a year!

Which brings us to the heart of the mother-daughter relationship and the next secret:

Secret #2:  We desire ... even expect ... unconditional love in this relationship

Wow ... this is a pretty tall order, isn't it?  But we expect it nonetheless and when it falls short it
can be pretty painful.  And, this disappointment can affect nearly every relationship that follows.  

There's a very real reason for the conflict that occurs between mother and daughter ... and it's a
noble one.  Once you learn this reason, things become very clear and I share this in detail with you
in the journal.

But as an overview, I can say that sometimes as moms and daughters we're just too much the same
and too close to the situation to see this conflict clearly. Oh, they arise, but our awareness of
what they really mean can get lost because we're both so tied to our position of being right, when
in fact, that's not what's really going on at all ...

This is a profound concept and one that'll help you open your heart and mind and focus on what's
really important.

Conflicts arises but awareness of how similar we are, rather than how different are difficult to see.
The real reason this relationship is so complex and so contentious at times is not because you don't
love her, but because you love her so deeply.

Secret #3:  Journaling is an exciting way to record these memories

Why a journal?  Well, imagine a written record of your mom's history in her own family, her childhood,
her experience as a mom and a wife, her hopes and dreams and accomplishments.  And then go a
step further to the insight you'll learn about yourself.

Then, imagine sharing the depth of history of your family with your own children with answers to
other questions like ...

How did you meet daddy?
Did you fall in love right away?
Did you ever regret not saying you were sorry for a misunderstanding?

Secret #4:  Your journal is going to reveal things you never imagined

Have you ever had an "a-ha" moment?  As a therapist I crave these for my patients.  That moment
of clarity coming from the pit of the stomach.  You know what you know and everything makes
sense.  This is what journaling can do for you.

And, I've designed this journal as sort of a guide ... writer's block is never a concern!  There's lots of
room for you to write and places where you can formulate your own questions, more customized
to your relationship with your mom.

Secret #5:  None of us are guaranteed a tomorrow

I can hear you now!  "What are you trying to tell me Teresa?  Of course I know none of us
are guaratneed a tomorrow!  What's new about that?"

Well, I know you know it, but do you live it?  Do you approach each and every relationship ... even
those who you know love you ... do you approach each and every one of them with the gratitude
and appreciation they deserve?

I know I didn't.  I thought I valued my relationship with my mom, but it could have been so much
more.  Within three weeks she went from being just a "bit" sick ... to no longer here.  

So, that brings me to another important part of the journal.  It's essential to share hopes and dreams
and accomplishments and memories ... while we're still able.  And to learn about medical history and
her wishes for the end of her life, again, while she's able.  We owe our parents the ability to make
their own decisions.

"If only I'd had more time ..."

I can't tell you how many times I've heard this from clients and I really can't tell you how many times
I've said it to myself since my mom's death.

More time is what I want for you ... more time to love, to laugh, and to learn more about each other.
This is a relationship worthy of your time and energy.  And I know enhancing, enriching, even healing
your relationships is within reach.

Please … don’t let another moment go.  Appreciate the fact that you have
time right now to commit to making your relationship one of mutual respect,
compassion, and yes, unconditional love.

About The Author:

Teresa M. Lauer, M.A., is a therapist specializing in intimacy in relationships.
She obtained her master’s degree in Counseling Psychology
at the University of San Francisco.

Teresa has written a number of books and articles on
relationship issues and has produced a video series. She says
of her newest book, “The very things that draw us close have the potential to pull us apart, unless we develop understanding."

Bonding: A Journal to Bring You Closer to Your Mom helps you discover how
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